So apparently there aren't real moms. Did you know this? I thought all moms were real moms. I suppose it's redundant for me to say "real moms" -- but then, I just sort of thought it was funny. Because when I see pictures of the "perfect moms" (and we know who they are), whose make-up is perfect and whose hair is, well, perfect, I roll my eyes. And then ask them for their nanny's phone number.
Sure. They are REAL. They're alive. They're breathing. But so are jellyfish. And inch worms.
But is that real motherhood?
I know my reality is not yours. What I perceive as real may be so far off what your perception is or ever will be.
In my reality, I spend my days obsessed with poop and decide that I'd rather just get out of the house than shower. In my reality, I want to look dressed up and nice, but I have other things that take precedence over that -- and they're not even important things. And in my reality, I cry more than I laugh on a lot of days. And I feel terribly misunderstood by most of the non-mom population.
So, when I asked folks to humor me with the Real Moms Meme, I didn't realize the issues it would bring up -- that moms who gave up their children would not be considered real moms and that moms who did not physically have their children would not be considered real moms. And that by the use of the word "real," I was implying that there were, in fact, mom posers -- you know "fake moms." Seriously, WHO would pose to be a mom? On some days, I'd rather be a garbage person -- not because I don't love my kids, but because it's hard to be a mom. And that's real motherhood.
You need not be invited to this party. All moms are welcome. Share your story.